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Man running toward a banner reading ALMOST THERE FINISH LINE at sunrise with onlookers cheering
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Not Now, but Soon Enough

Posted on by Distracted Damsel

Ok maybe not almost there but stay with me. As I mentioned before this has been a really tough month or so, on all sides. I am never one to stay down long and I honestly don’t know where I get the drive or the stubbornness to keep going, even if I stumble. I am sure I am not the only one that turns to instagram for distraction. I have two accounts on that app. One personal and one for my business. Both have a different set of accounts that I follow. One for nonsense and one for inspiration.

The title of this post is a quote from an account that has blown up since the beginning of last year. this gentlemen decided that he was tired of his overweight lifestyle and did something about it. Posting uncomfortable things and being accountable, really working on the underlying mental struggles it takes to change not only your health but your core principles to be better.

I came across one of his videos yesterday. In this video, he was talking about the urge to go in to a favorite pizza place, how just seeing the building created a sense of need and the mental battle began. He had to tell himself that it didn’t work for what he was trying to accomplish now but that doesn’t mean never again. “Not Now, But Soon Enough”

To some, it might seem silly that a delay in ordering a pizza can be profound but, its about changing your mindset to align with the version you are now and the version your are striving to be. Giving a deeper priority to the goals and dreams you have set, than to the temporary easy things you want in the moment.

I admit I am not the best at delayed gratification. I struggle with what I want, what it costs and the truth that tomorrow isn’t promised. I would say sometimes that becomes my excuse for just giving in and doing what I want, eating what I want, buying what I want. Sometimes my emotions lock me in the now when I should be focused on my goals.

So when I start struggling with my current issues, like the pain in my legs, the breakup doubts and the financial struggles I am going to use that phrase. “Not Now, But Soon Enough” Soon enough I will set myself up for the big wins and the version of me that I am becoming.

I left a comment on that post just to show this gentlemen that these random thoughts we have and share do get to the right people. And I have seen the change and growth in him over the past year. Everyone has their own demons and dark days but there are others out there that are going through similar battles and are looking for examples of people who have made it or are making it to the other side. My hope is that he will keep going not only for him but for the people out there that need it. And that I can make a difference here by sharing these thoughts as well.

If you are on instagram and would like to follow his account is http://www.instagram.com/i.am.done.being.obese

I am on instagram also at http://www.instagram.com/thedistracteddamsel

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Seems to me its running out

Posted on by Distracted Damsel
Daily writing prompt
Do you need time?
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I cant seem to get a handle on the way time is flying by. We are at the bottom innings of 2025 and I feel like I am one run behind the winning team. I’m not much of a baseball fan unless I am sitting in the stadium but I hope that metaphor makes enough sense.

I am t-minus 9 days away from my 3rd and last vacation of the year and I am mentally and physically not ready for the much needed break. You see, I have been extra focused on not slowing down business because business is slow. That might sound weird but some companies lay of the gas for the fourth quarter while others double down. I am doubling down on my marketing efforts so that business is still coming in and it springs forward come 2025. Slow times are great for system and strategy building, refocusing etc.

This week, 5 out of 7 days have color consults. I am up from two a week to five. New ads on yelp and facebook, google and even instagram have been gaining momentum. I am only looking at those four socials and I am finding the time it takes even with AI is hard for me. I have list of ideas and minutes to get things up between meetings, school pick ups and parents having surgeries. I need much more time to keep the momentum going with new inspiration and real time talk. Oh yeah and sleep. Its important but Im not getting much lately.

I havent hit all my goals for October, that just ended. Or the ones that I am working towards for end of year. I see Christmas approaching so fast and I cant seem to get past work to enjoy the things that are coming up. At the bare minimum I plan to turn business off for one week of rest and day drinking on a cruise. And then as we get closer to Dec 25th a family cookie night.

If any one has found a way to slow time down, please, please, please let me know. I am doing my best to do one thing at a time and focus on one day at a time. Enjoying the fun times with my nephew and enjoying the quiet times of reflection. But I legit cant wait to see bright blue clear waters and a bahama mamma in my hand. Hope time is working in your favor 🙂

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Self-care Reflections: What are yours??

Posted on by Distracted Damsel
Daily writing prompt
What details of your life could you pay more attention to?
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If you are anything like me, life seems to go non stop. From working three jobs, helping aging parents, helping with a nephew and trying to have some down time on vacations, there is never really a quiet moment. Schedules area always packed and things come up and we know we cant forget about cooking and eating dinner.

I have noticed lately that I have not been giving myself the same self care that I have had in the past. It sounds superficial but I have not been going for my haircuts or my pedicures. On a more physical level I have also not made it a priority to get my gym time in. Some days I hate the gym but I still feel accomplished when I drag myself there. lol

Being tired means alot of the little things just dont get done. The motivation or energy just isnt there. I have realized the list of things to do in a day isnt going to get smaller so instead I am just going to add a few more to this month to see if I can regain a bit of sanity. Laugh if you want but I dare you to make your own self care list. Here are my 5 things and reasons that I am making them priority.

  1. Lipstick and Mascara every day. – I am going to pick a few different colors that make me feel pretty and boss like. I dont have time in the mornings with getting ready for school to do a full routine. These two take less that 3 minutes and I will feel more ready for the day in my professional world.
  2. New Sheets. – Silly to buy something I already have but even your bed routine can get tired. We are coming into fall and I want to feel snuggly and comfy when I hit the pillow.
  3. One mid month Spa day.- yes one day can be spared to do a little self maintenance. Hair cut, facial, mani/pedi. Its a day to relax and you feel brand new to face the challenges.
  4. Two dinners with friends- With how busy I am lately, I only have had time with my nephew and close family. Not that there is anything wrong with that. But I dont get to just be me, to hear about life outside of my world, to laugh with others. It could be work friends, business minded friends or just my girl friends that I dont get hang with as we have crazy schedules.
  5. Flavored water- ok so maybe not a must have. I had some testing done recently and 2 of the issues with my bloodwork were b12 deficiency and dehydration. So I have been trying to water myself 🙂 I only like water with ice and it does nothing to quench the soda craving. So I am going to “splurge” on flavor packets. They can be refreshing.

I would love to hear what small things you would do through out the month to treat yourself better. not always just a splurge but something small that makes you happy or feel better. Leave your comments and thoughts here and maybe someone else will do something similar. Pay attention to the daily details that support you 🙂