Author: Distracted Damsel

I’ve been listening to all kinds of audios lately on everything from business to creativity to the human body. I can’t say that I am in the best shape of my life, but I am very aware and trying to be more conscious about how I treat my body. I don’t heal as fast or feel as good, have as much energy, etc. I haven’t crossed over the 40 mark yet, but some days, I feel like my body cracks and creeks, and I’m just not ready to throw in the towel.

I’ve started to add in new habits here and there. These are just simple things that can make a difference. For example, in the morning, I have a water bottle with water and lemon. Lemon is good for building immunity and helping to keep you hydrated. I make sure that every day, I have at least two servings of fruits and veggies. I usually grab fruits for breakfast and snacks. Then I have a veggie wrap for lunch and a serving with my protein at dinner. I already need to eat and drink, so these are easy things to incorporate.

Recently, I have seen more and more about Ice Baths or cold showers and what their benefits are to the human body. I don’t have a tub at the moment or an excessive amount of ice, but I have turned the knob to cold in the shower the last few days. I really just did it to cool off the one day, but now I am taking notes to see if creating a new habit will make a difference.

The science is out there, and I am only paraphrasing what i have heard or read. The benefits are not just physical, but they are also mental benefits. Here are some of what they say taking cold showers do for both body and mind. They say it is best to do in the morning to start your day.

Mental discipline – because you actively have to choose and decide to step into the cold water each time, it builds discipline. No one wants to get cold or stand under the cold spray to wake up. It isn’t easy.

Mental clarity and focus – while in the cold, you can focus on your breathing. Your breathing instantly quickens as part of the defense to the temperature, but you need to take deep breaths to adjust. Also, this can be like meditating while you try to focus on your normal shower activities or your day instead of the cold water.

Alertness and productivity – you are getting the cold jolt sending messages to your brain, waking you up. You are more ready to go and get things done, and as you are only in the cold shower for minutes, your pace will quicken. More alert thru your day, you will want to accomplish more.

Awakens your body – the cold will instantly get your body functions going from sleep. The cold water will help with inflammation and sluggishness, helping you feel refreshed.

Can help with losing bad fats.- I don’t pretend to be a health specialist but they said that there is two type of fat one good one bad and the fall in temperature helps the body process the fat. If a cold shower can freeze and get rid of my few extra lbs, I’m down! Lol

Hair and skin benefits – cold temps help to keep the body’s natural moisture and oils. Hot showers wash away oils that are good for you. Cold will allow your pores to absorb them and retain them, creating healthy skin and silky hair.

I’m sure there are more and I’m sure there are better ways to explain them but for now I will leave you with that. I have added a Spotify link to one of the many podcasts I have listened to about them. I am going to make notes over the next month to see how I feel. Today, I for sure was more ready to face the day. It kicked my butt, but at least this morning, I faced it head-on. I dare you to try it too!

OK, so maybe not a whole new vision but an updated and slightly more motivational vision. Yesterday, I said that I had had some wins this year. I am taking those plus the goals still out of reach and new inspiration, and I am going to create another vision board. There is no doubt in my mind that you have heard that what you focus on grows and that having a clear vision is halfway to having the life you want. It’s 100% true.

At the beginning of the year, I wrote down about 10 goals and when I wanted to achieve them. Having them there in the back of my mind, I did make 3 of them happen on time, and I am closing in on two more. I’m not completely satisfied with all my progress, and I want to help my goals along. So now I want them front and center, something I see every day.

Amazon has everything, including a cute cork board that is going to be hung on my bedroom wall next to my door. That way, every day, when I wall out of my room, I will see what I am going to work for. My motivation for the days task.

Find your vision. I don’t get magazines or books to cut images out of. That is way too much clutter for the few images I want or need. What I do is scroll the internet for images of purchases I want to make, activities I want to do, places I want to go, etc. I sent them out to Walgreens photo for 4×6 prints. I am working on this right now. I have a hard time narrowing things down until I lay them all out on the board.

Once my wish list is on the board, I add little things to it. Post its for dates, fun stickers, and comic book bubbles with inspirational quotes. Little things that make me smile. Maybe some fun photos from previous trips to remind me that good times are coming.

I never stick to the rules on this. I want it to be fun, inspiring, motivating, outside of the lines, kind of like me. Whatever your goals are, whatever your style is, put together your vision and let it help you take the steps and make the moves in that direction. I will keep working on mine, I might let you know when it’s done, but I won’t be posting it completed. Your goals should be on display for you and no one else. You go make them happen!

Are you like me and start the year off gas pedal to the floor January 1st, but by a few months in you aren’t even driving the car anymore and the race track is no where to be seen? Well, I hope you are a little bit better than me, but if not, don’t fear because we just have to start back up.

Tomorrow is May 31st. That means that we are coming into the sixth month of the year, almost to the halfway point. And for me, up to this point, it has been a steady year. I have seen improvement and changes in so many aspects of my professional life and my personal life. I know that I am making good steps that will better my future.

The thing is, some of those things were not on the goals list, and others were. I feel like I am constantly focused on working on some things, but I am not seeing enough change or nowhere near my goals yet.

Going into June, I have re checked my goals lists. Two goals I hit. I was able to pay off two debts that were dragging me down, and I was able to hit a small savings goal. I am celebrating those small wins and using them to propel my year goals farther than I expected. On the flip side, my eating habits have improved, but my fitness goals have stalled. Some of my other personal goals seem like they are fading into the distance.

We will never be able to focus on 100% of the things we want to in life. There are just not enough hours in the day, enough motivation, enough perfection to get it all done. But knowing and seeing your progress is a great motivator to keep you going. You can’t focus on what you did or didn’t do but what you are going to do or what you are about to do. Sport is a great metaphor on how we break it down.

My year, my 2023, is like a football game. I am approaching the first half 2 minute warning. I have scored a couple of times, but my opponent is still just out of reach. Maybe some wrong moves- penalties. Maybe some do overs – false start, repeat 1st down. Who knows, maybe you have even had life come at you and take over – blindsided or someone intercepted the ball.

Half time is almost here. It’s time to go back into that locker room and forget about the first half. What is done can’t be undone. Now it’s time to make a plan to get more numbers on the board, change up plays that aren’t working, get right down on that line and push your distractions, set backs, excuses right out of your way and march up that field to your goals.

If you aren’t into sports, I hope you can at least appreciate the metaphor, lol. But I have the last one. Your futures are those linebackers on the other team looking at you and blocking you from hitting your goals. They might be big, scary, mean, and covered in sweat. But you have a choice. Put your head down and get to work or let them take you out? I’m too stubborn to be taken out! Who’s with me!?!?!

I don’t know about you but I write alot of notes, I plan things, schedule things, write my goals etc. I haven’t been able to successfully pencil in this blog for a little bit but really it’s like a journal too. I am typing up what I do in a day or what I learn in a day and I’m sharing that with you.

One of my friends has been struggling lately, just having a tough time with life and love. I was thinking of ways to help and it really came down to not being so hard on yourself and taking things as they come. And wouldn’t you know it, an audio I was listening to was right on the money about self love and Journaling.

I went to the store the next day to find a journal. I have one that I really like/liked but sadly it is somewhere in storage. I’ll fill those pages later I guess. Wandering thru taget I found this. Could it really be any more spot on?

In this journal there are random things to help you have some fun or reflection on every page, from take a nap to build a blanket fort to writing down what you are thankful for. Each page asks you to write down something that you did for self love during your day. It has a line to write down your day and 1-10 to rate your day.

As I go thru the days I am much more aware of how I am feeling, what I am working towards and what I forgive and let go of. I write it all down. If the day was a success or if there are things I can improve, if I took a walk to enjoy the sunshine or if I went to get my eye brows done. I include thoughts I had from audios, new goals I want to set, people that come to mind. Really anything that I feel needs to be shared even if it is for my eyes only.

For a week, I have felt more confident, relaxed and hopeful. I am not worried about the things I can’t change but I am working on the things I can. I’m writing the now with the focus on the future. I would encourage you to do the same. If it’s an online journal or a paper journal it doesn’t matter. But by taking 5 -10 minutes of your day to write it down I know you will feel better. The greats do this so they can look back on where they have came from. I’m mapping my progress and I’m going to be my version of great! Let’s do this!

Some things in this world just bring you joy or make you smile. The thing is that they don’t always have to be some monumental or life changing thing. This week, I have had a few despite the craziness and busyness of the days. I’m going to share a few. Please share some of yours.

I was getting into spring cleaning mode, and I grabbed a box that I hadn’t unpacked yet. Inside, I found a piece of the past. I found my iPod from my senior year in high school. Of course, I only found it, not the charger. So I ordered one on Amazon and charged that bad boy up. Oh man, did the music come flooding back. Songs I completely forgot I loved or knew. I’m just going to leave this one here. Judge if you will. Hahaha 😆

Spring is here and with it the changes of weather. One day it’s sunny and almost 75, the next it’s 40 and snowing on the mountain. Today was all of the above. It’s not super cold, clouds here and there. I wasn’t prepared for the 5-minute shower I got caught in since my weather app only said clouds. But I had to laugh as I was walking in the rain while everyone was huddled at the entrance or waiting in their cars. I would have danced if I wasn’t in a parking lot but fun enough to feel the sprinkles.

It’s easy as you are walking thru a grocery store to snatch the snacks that look or sound yummy. But what if your boyfriend wants something in particular? Smiths has rice Krispie treats but only the basics. My man wanted ones with fruity pebbles, too. I got to his house on Saturday, and he had the stuff for us to make them. We went back and forth on the rice to fruity pebbles ratio and how many cups of marshmallows. I put them in the pan to cool, and he got out a spatula. Watching him extra squish them into the pan cracked me up. We both agreed upon tasting. They were delish and way too sweet to eat more than one.

One last one. You’ve heard me talk about doing things with my nephew. Little projects that we do together once a week to keep him busy and have Auntie time. This week was some Easter fun. I saw this craft where you draw in white crayon pictures or images on a piece of white paper. Then you paint the paper with water colored paints, and what you drew magically appears. My nephew wanted me to show him the magic and do some more. He figured it out, but the smile and the confusion before he did was super fun to watch.

These are simple, silly things. And there are so many more examples. Maybe someone brings in donuts when you are hungry. Or your dog does something really cute and makes you laugh. Or you got to go out to a farmers market and see all the pretty flowers. (Which I am hoping is coming up on the agenda). I can splurge for that extra unnecessary bag of jelly beans because they sound good right now. Or come across a favorite book and read a few pages. I hope you stop and take a look this week/weekend for your simple Pleasures. Drop them here and share 🙂

I’m going to say that has two meanings. The act of physically planting flowers and veggies and the new personal growth as we go into spring. It’s kind of become our yearly tradition. Dad takes my sister up to Utah to buy the plants 🪴. Then I help dad with the soil and the planting. I really enjoy getting my hands dirty.

This was the batch for us this spring. Smaller than the usual 2 or 3 full boxes, but it took us several hours to garden. Dad does a variety of tomato and pepper plants, sweet peas, onions, lettuces, and herbs. Then we have pansies, poppies, daffodils, bells, and other bright colored flowers mom picks out. It always ends up colorful.

It takes a bit of patience to grow plants of any kind. From seed to stem and leaves to producing fruit, it takes time and care. We add some growth vitamins to each hole for each plant to give them a little extra chance to be full and plentiful. Two obvious things are water and sunlight, but keep in mind that both if overdone can be detrimental to the plants.

Really, it’s a natural metaphor for personal growth. Plants will grow in the environment they are in, but will they flourish? The same goes for people. What environment are you in? Can you be transplanted to greener pastures?

We need nutrients in life. Water, good food, vitamins, fresh air, sunlight. Your soil is your foundation. I have a strong foundation with a good system of family and friends that have my back, a place where I can grow and learn and flourish. What we feed and water ourselves with is very important.

Water yourself with belief, with positivity. Feed yourself with wisdom and knowledge. Constantly be soaking up the good vibes. But be cautious. Sometimes storms will come, the wind will shake you, and the water will rise. The battles that come will make you stronger, will give you experience to get thru the next one. Constantly growing your roots, expanding your branches, and showing the fruit of your labors.

Too much symbolism? Well I hope you really think about it. Spring is the perfect time to reflect on new growth. It’s a chance to find new flowers to grow and new focus for the year. I encourage you to go to Lowes or Home Depot and find a flower or plant. Water that daily and at the same time find a book or a podcast to water your mind. Let’s see what fruits we can grow for harvest!

I’m sure that all of us in our younger years said, “I can’t wait to be big.” And now looking back, I’m sure we have changed our minds and said,”I wish I was a kid.” I’m guilty for sure. Some days, you just wish that you could run from your responsibilities and play with your friends. Well, tonight, despite my initial refusal to play hide and seek, I was reminded about how much fun simple kid games are.

I have a nephew that I try to see and entertain once or twice a week. We like to do “projects” together. Could be planting terrariums like you’ve seen me post or making cookies. Doing crafts. Anything to try to keep him occupied and having fun. It’s our bonding time. Some nights he can sit and do them with me hour after hour. Other nights, before we even get started, he is trying to get 17 other games going.

Tonight, I didn’t come prepared. Work ran late, and I didn’t have time to get our St. Patrick’s day craft supplies. But of course, little man being kid creative as he is, grabbed a box and told me what we could turn it into because “we have to do a project Auntie!”

I asked him what he wanted to make, and we settled on a spaceship. Took all of about 2 cuts of scissors and a few staples for him to move on tonight. I, of course, had to finish the spaceship. I’ll admit not my best work, but hey, my helper left. But while I was gluing craft paper to a box, he must have asked me 20 times to play hide and seek.

If you have ever played hide and seek with a kid under the age of, let’s say, 8, you don’t have to count or look because you know exactly where they are. They can’t help but giggle or wiggle or say, “Come find me.” Not to mention they haven’t learned the good spots to hide. And once they think they have an ok spot under the covers, they keep going back to it.

My sis told Booger that we would play after our project, and when I say there is no escaping, I mean it. He is relentless. So I caved and started the counting. Not really paying attention, just random numbers til I said, “Ready or not, here I come.” I heard his loud feet up the stairs and heard him ask mom to cover him up. Even heard the giggles. But you can’t let a kid down and grab them right away. You have to pretend to look. “He’s not in the bathroom. He’s not in the closet.”

Just enough to distract him and goose him! If I find you, you get tickled 🙂 Of course I won, but now I had to hide. But I am much wiser and practiced in the ways of hide and seek. I don’t make it easy, I sneak and whisper, hide in places I know he won’t look. The second time around, he called for backup. I was in the spate room closet listening to him yell, Auntie! Come on, Auntie! Where are you?” Mom helped find me, but you know where he hid next? Exactly where I was.

They may not be the greatest at it. They may not catch on to the best hiding spots. And you know where they will be if you show them a good one. But hiding and anticipating them finding you or you surprise attacking for a tickle fight is just fun. They make up rules as they go, and each time, no matter who is seeking or who is finding, the round is won by giggles.

Sadly, growing up, we get so banged up by the world. We don’t get to laugh and play. We get to work and pay. We lose that sense of silliness and let the responsibilities of life bring us down. I encourage you this week to do something silly. Monday is over on this daylight savings time week. What fun activity can you add to bring back some life into your step? Can you take ten minutes to ride the swings in the park? Or find some chalk and color your sidewalk? Do something this week that you loved to do as a kid and see just how quick your mood changes. I double dog dare ya!!

We get so busy caught up in our stuff sometimes that we don’t notice how the people around us are doing. How’s your bestie doing? What’s going on in your partners life? Have you checked in with your kids besides to see if their homework is complete?

I know I have been so focused on my struggles lately and focused on getting better. But I also have realized that the more I stay in my issues or bed, the more distant I feel, like something is missing. I had to take a step back today and take some time to reach out to the friends I love but haven’t talked to in what seems like months.

I have three friends in different states far from me, who I talk to on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis. We talk about everything from work to kids to drama and the tv shows or books we are reading. You see, it really doesn’t matter what we talk about but having a distraction from one’s struggles that matters.

My nurse friend fills me in on all her workplace drama and the crazy cases that she has. There are so many politics in her hospital that she wants to move, but she loves the patients. I love hearing the late night ER stories, and then I do my part to encourage my friend or give her ideas for changing things.

Another has had relative problems for the last few weeks. Specifically a difficult aunt who likes to stir the pot. I’m thankful my aunts aren’t really that difficult and try to help her see the humor in the things her aunt does. I get distracted with her family tea and forget about some of mine for a while.

But then there is a friend who has fun things to celebrate now and coming up. Birthday dinners, baby’s first birthday, and a trip to see the Easter Bunny. To look in on how quickly things can change and grow in a year is amazing. A year can feel like such a short time or such a long time, depending on what side you are on and your perspective. I couldn’t imagine past a few dates (never having a long-term relationship), and yet here I am, and my boyfriend and I are almost a year.

I don’t know who you have in your circle. If they are in the same town as you or states away. If they are friends, family, coworkers, or mentors. I do hope, though, as anyone pops into your mind that you reach out. You never know who is having struggles or needs a friend or distraction. Perhaps you are the one who needs to hear about something other than your own drama. I dare you to reach out. Check in every once in a while 🙂

I don’t know about you, but I 100% struggle with mornings. It might be because I don’t sleep well. Or it might be because I know work is looming in the near future. But either way, they just seem to be not so fun for me. While I’ve been struggling with this sinus infection for 3 weeks, the morning routine has been more difficult with the bouts of coughs. But I’m beginning to feel better, and I heard something today about setting yourself up for the day.

I’m always looking for new audio books. I listen to them at work or while I am riding to and from. Sometimes, I even listen to them as background noise instead of the TV. I think this one populated in my suggestions because I already have Atomic Habits and 7 Habits of Highly Effective People in my library.

Listen to The 6 Habits of Growth by Brendon Burchard on Audible. https://www.audible.com/pd/B0BBY76WP4?source_code=ASSOR150021921000V

I’m about half way thru the audio, but in the chapter on Motivation, Brendon gives three things to you to do in your morning routine to set the intentions for the day. The 3 things are reading, goal planning, and movement, and you really only take five minutes for each. I can do 15 minutes to put me in the right spot for the day.

So I have a daily planner. In the morning, I write out 3 things I want to accomplish for the day – goals. From there, I get into my Spotify and find my daily motivation or a new podcast. I also have a self-help book right next to my bed-reading. I have a yoga stretch video I follow if I have enough time or I have my 20-minute bike ride to work-movement.

These might be more than the 15 minutes total for the three things, but it is how I am implementing them into my day. Today was my first attempt, and by the time I got to work, I was ready to face the stack of orders waiting for me. My day started on the right foot, and overall, now that I am at home and about to have dinner and relax, I feel accomplished. I will do this for the rest of the week and see what happens. Anyone have any other get you going morning routines?

Guys, I don’t know about you, but February, hands down, kicked my behind. As you can obviously see, I haven’t posted in a while. I won’t go into everyone one of the details, but here are the highlights of the month.

Car breaks down before my birthday. Took me all month to find and purchase a new one while riding my bike, rain, sleet, or snow in Las Vegas.

Valentines- he did get me flowers after all 🥰 boyfriend for the win.

Day after down for the count. Not from covid or strep, but 2 weeks later, I am barely back on my feet.

Office takes 3 of the weeks to move (all while sick), get settled, and be 30 orders deep, down two helpers, and demanding customers.

That sums it up. It was the longest, never-ending “shortest” month of the year. It seemed like, at every turn, there was something. And I had high hopes of telling you more about my savings struggles and my car buying efforts, but for now, I will just say this. Changing the habits before and during being at home sick, I was able to save an extra $500 in the month of February. It doesn’t seem like that much, but do that for a year, and you have an extra $6000. It all adds up.

I learned a lot about used cars and car loans. We went thru brand dealerships and used dealerships. Looked thru inventory here in town and in close states. Took 4 test drives to find the right one. I signed that line, and I was more relieved that the process was completed than actually driving off in a new for me, but 201, less than 30000 miles, used Mazda. It’s perfect for me and my budget 🙂

I can only hope that as March marches in, it brings with it a smoother month. If there are rough waters ahead, we will press on. I am looking forward to spring and possibly a new opportunity, which I might post about later. For now, I am going to take another round of cough suppressant and say good night. Keep Marching, guys!